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		<title>What&#8217;s wrong with this picture?</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 15 Mar 2010 03:42:02 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Maggie</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;m on my way to meet a friend at a restaurant. It&#8217;s raining. So I take my umbrella along with me in the car. We meet. Eat. And leave. I then discover that I do not have my umbrella. Return to restaurant. Return to the table at which I was sitting. No umbrella there. Ask [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<blockquote><p>I&#8217;m on my way to meet a friend at a restaurant. It&#8217;s raining. So I take my umbrella along with me in the car. We meet. Eat. And leave. I then discover that I do not have my umbrella. Return to restaurant. Return to the table at which I was sitting. No umbrella there. Ask the hostess whether anyone turned in a black umbrella. She checks. No.</p>
<p>I demand to speak to the manager. In harsh language, I tell the manager that the restaurant is bad news. In fact, maybe one of the staff stole my umbrella.</p>
<p>When I get home, I&#8217;m still fuming.</p>
<p>(source: modified version of original by teacher <a href="http://torontomeditationguide.org/events/karma-weekend-workshop-jay-lippman" target="_self">Jay Lippman</a>)</p></blockquote>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">What just happened?</span></p>
<ul>
<li><span style="color: #000080;">umbrella was stolen as a consequence of past negative actions that have now ripened;</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #000080;">harsh speech and indulging in &#8220;the blame game&#8221; create future negative karmic consequences;  and</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #000080;">hanging onto anger by indulging in it, even when the situation has ended, strengthens my habitual tendency to be angry. This ensures that when I am in a similar situation in the future I will most likely behave in a similar negative manner.</span></li>
</ul>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">In the next scenario, the situation is the same — someone has stolen my umbrealla </span>—<span style="color: #000080;"> but I respond differently:<br />
</span></p>
<ul>
<li><span style="color: #000080;"> recognize that the karma of previous negative actions is being burnt up;</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #000080;">Although anger is arising in me about the loss of the umbrella,  I refrain from harsh languzge when speaking to the manager;</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #000080;">when the situation ends, I try to let go of anger every time it arises. This weakens the  negative habitual pattern. The next time I am in a similar situation, I will have a better chance to recognize that this is yet another opportunity to weaken my negative tendency to anger.<br />
</span></li>
</ul>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">What&#8217;s the difference between these two sets of responses? <span id="more-6205"></span></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">In the first one, I have not taken the opportunity to cut the loop. Instead I have used the opportunity presented by the stolen umbrella to </span><span style="color: #000080;">maintain and strengthen the negative karma by indulgin in my habitual tendency.</span><span style="color: #000080;"><span style="color: #000080;"> </span> In the second one, I use the opportunity of having my umbrella stolen to step out of self absorption and cut the connection between the emotion of anger, angry behaviour, and the creation of negative karmic consequences.<br />
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		<title>The Toronto Transit Commission a spiritual guide?</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 08 Mar 2010 00:53:38 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Maggie</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[MEANS that either maintain present karmic stream or change the course of our karma]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[creating a gap]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[getting hooked]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[the gap]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[ On subway cars in my city, there&#8217;s a sign on the door saying &#8220;Mind the Gap.&#8221; Love it! I need to be constantly reminded to let go of all the subconscious gossip and discursive thought going on in my head and just mind the gap.
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img class="alignnone size-full wp-image-6105" title="Mind the gap" src="http://www.getalifetime.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/03/Mind-the-gap.png" alt="" width="93" height="92" /> <span style="color: #000080;">On subway cars in my city, there&#8217;s a sign on the door saying &#8220;Mind the Gap.&#8221; Love it! I need to be constantly reminded to let go of all the subconscious gossip and discursive thought going on in my head and just mind the gap.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">The gap to which the transit company is referring is that gap between the platform and the subway car.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">The gap to which <a href="http://www.shambhala.org/meditation/" target="_self">meditation instructors </a>refer is that between one thought\emotion and the next. That&#8217;s where primordial awareness and intelligence lie. That&#8217;s where the unchanging essence that underlies all changing things is. </span><span style="color: #000080;">This unchanging essence is sometimes described as being as vast as the sky where &#8220;nothing but everything arises from it.&#8221;<span style="color: #000080;"> The spaciousness that lies beyond the claustrophobia of our conventional minds. Beyond judgment, contrivance, change, accepting and rejecting. Just beyond&#8230;.<br />
</span></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">I know from personal experience how, in a nano second, I get caught up in thoughts\emotions and how easily I get <a href="http://www.shambhalasun.com/index.php?option=com_content&amp;task=view&amp;id=1610&amp;Itemid=247" target="_self">&#8220;hooked&#8221;</a> if one of my painful &#8220;buttons&#8221; is pushed. e.g. if someone is extremely aggressive towards me. One of my spiritual guides used the example of walking along the street and a stranger looks at you and shouts &#8220;F — — K YOU!&#8221;  Or my child does something that really upsets me. What&#8217;s my usual reaction? How can I avoid going on automatic pilot?</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">Create a gap, I tell myself. Don&#8217;t just jump into the situation. Pause. Isn&#8217;t there some Coca-Cola ad that invites us to taste &#8220;the pause that refreshes&#8221;? Or like pressing  the &#8220;Refresh&#8221; (F5) key on our computer keyboard.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">Some ways to create a gap:</span></p>
<ol>
<li>in daily life:
<ul>
<li>take a few deep breaths before responding to the situation;</li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li>put up some signs around your home to remind yourself to &#8220;mind the gap.&#8221;</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li>in <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4RZy-uITowY" target="_self">meditation practice</a>, we learn to be mindful of the gap between one thought\emotion and the next. This is where we learn to say &#8220;thinking&#8221; when  thought\emotion arises, rather than getting caught up in it, or obsessing and fixating on it.</li>
</ol>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">As this weblog is an in-depth examination of karma, I want to point out that there&#8217;s a wonderful bonus to minding the gap: by not indulging in our usual habitual patterns, we burn up negative karma.</span></p>
<blockquote><p>Every time a habitual pattern gets strong, every time we feel caught up or on automatic pilot, we could see it as an opportunity to burn up negative karma. Rather than as a problem, we dould see it as our karma ripening, which gives us an opportunity to burn up karma, or at least weaking our karmic propensities. But that&#8217;s hard to do. When we realize that we are hooked, that we&#8217;re on automatic pilot, what do we do next? (source: <a href="http://www.shambhala.com/html/catalog/items/isbn/978-1-59030-757-1.cfm" target="_self"><em>In the Face of Fear</em></a>, article by Pema Chodron)</p></blockquote>
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		<title>Tibet&#8217;s poster boy for seriously bad behaviour</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 01 Mar 2010 02:20:16 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Maggie</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[This weblog is all about karma and its many facets and factors.Today I write about Milarepa, a murderer and saint, who is, for me, the best object lesson for karma!
When we hear the name Tibet, many people think of His Holiness the Fourteenth Dalai Lama. Gentle. Compassionate. Humourous. Loving. Wise.

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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><span style="color: #000080;">This weblog is all about</span> <a href="http://www.getalifetime.com/main-theme-of-weblog/" target="_self">karma</a> <span style="color: #000080;">and its many facets and factors.Today I write about Milarepa, a murderer and saint, who is, for me, the best object lesson for karma!</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">When we hear the name Tibet, many people think of His Holiness the Fourteenth Dalai Lama. Gentle. Compassionate. Humourous. Loving. Wise.<br />
</span></p>
<p><a href="http://www.cosmicharmony.com/Av/Milarepa/Milarepa.htm" target="_blank">Milarepa,</a> <span style="color: #000080;">one of the greatest figures of Tibetan Buddhism, couldn&#8217;t present a better contrast to the perception we have of the Dalai Lama.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">I mean, Mila was one bad dude. Got into black magic in a big way. Murdered his enemies to avenge some wrong-doing done to his family after his father had died.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">But he is favourite of mine. Why? It&#8217;s really quite simple. He was a very naughty boy who went from sinner to saint. From a murderer to a magician and mystic. And did it all in one lifetime. </span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">Milarepa&#8217;s message to me is: &#8220;I transformed a great deal of negative karma into enlightenment. So can you.&#8221;  Well, it&#8217;s taking me many many lifetimes. But Mila is my inspiration.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">Let&#8217;s start at the beginning of his story.<span id="more-5996"></span></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">Once upon a time a baby son destined to be the most famous Tibetan poet was born in 1040 to wealthy parents who called him &#8220;Good News.&#8221; But in this story, there&#8217;s a lot of bad news too.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">As the expression goes, what do you want to hear first: the good news or the bad news about Milarepa? In this case, we&#8217;ll have to start with the bad news because out of the bad news came the good news.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">When Mila was still young, his father died. Unfortunately, his father did not draw up a very wise will, and wealth, in the form of a beautiful house and much land were put in the care of Mila&#8217;s aunt and uncle to be held until Mila got married.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">The aunt and uncle were unkind people. They were greedy and thought only of themselves. Mila and his mother and sister were treated like slaves in their own home! They wore rags for clothes and did not eat well, while the aunt and uncle took everything good for themselves.</span></p>
<blockquote><p>Aunt, you are a demoness.<br />
You are a deadly demoness who almost killed me.<br />
(source: <em>The Rain of Wisdom</em> &#8211; &#8220;The Songs of Jetsun Milarepa&#8221;)</p></blockquote>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">Soon, Mila, his mother and sister — deprived of their land and house and all their goods, and given poor food to eat and rags to wear </span>—<span style="color: #000080;">became unhealthy. Everybody in their village felt sorry for them but there was nothing anyone felt they could do.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">We usually think of turning 16 as a big deal.His mother couldn&#8217;t wait until he turned 16 to put her hidden agenda into action. So when he turned 15, she held a party for him. Her brother helped by giving Mila&#8217;s mother some food so that she would have something to serve to her guests. The aunt and uncle were invited.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">After everyone had eaten, Mila&#8217;s mother made her grand announcement: &#8220;It is time now to have our possesions returned to us.&#8221; The aunt and uncle refused, saying that the will Mila&#8217;s father had left gave the family possessions to the aunt and uncle outright.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">There weren&#8217;t any lawyers to go to in 11th century Tibet.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">So Mila&#8217;s mother urged her adolescent son to seek out a Sorcerer-lama to learn black magic so he could destroy the family&#8217;s enemies.</span></p>
<p><img class="alignnone size-full wp-image-6031" style="border: 1px solid black; margin: 5px 10px;" title="Milarepa movie pic - cropped" src="http://www.getalifetime.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/02/Milarepa-movie-pic-cropped.jpg" alt="" width="76" height="122" /><span style="color: #000080;">He did. In fact, </span><span style="color: #000080;">Mila was a such a good pupil that he got an A+ on his report card. When he returned to his village, he didn&#8217;t actually show his report card to his mother. He went one better. He demonstrated his A+ skills:<br />
</span></p>
<ul>
<li><span style="color: #000080;">First, he killed 35 people at a wedding party by causing the horses to become extremely agitated; in their agitation, the horses kicked the main column that supported the house, and it fell on 35 of the 37 wedding guests; and then</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #000080;">He caused three powerful hail storms to appear; they destroyed the entire barley crop of that year.</span></li>
</ul>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">After wreaking this havoc, he returned to his Sorcerer-lama for what we today would call graduate classes.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">Now for the good news. At some point, Mila realized that his actions had accumulated a great deal of negative karma and wished now to get spiritual instruction. He met his teacher,</span> <a href="http://www.kagyu-asia.com/l_mar_life1.html" target="_self">Marpa</a> <span style="color: #000080;">the Translator, and asked Marpa to give him spiritual instructions.</span></p>
<blockquote><p><img class="alignnone size-thumbnail wp-image-6060" style="border: 1px solid black; margin: 5px 10px;" title="Nov 10'05 milarepa_m1_1" src="http://www.getalifetime.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/02/Nov-1005-milarepa_m1_1-112x150.jpg" alt="" width="74" height="112" />Through a break in  my evil karma, I discovered good karma<br />
I met the father jetsun [revered teacher], the excellent true buddha [awakened one]<br />
&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;..<br />
The skin of ignorant ego-fixation fell away from me,<br />
And the great knot tied by passion and aggression [the <a href="http://www.getalifetime.com/2009/04/19/loot-the-private-stronghold-of-passion-aggression-and-ignorance-anon/" target="_self">poisons</a>] was loosened.<br />
(source: <em>The Rain of Wisdom</em>; &#8220;The Songs of Khakhyap Dorje&#8221;)</p></blockquote>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">The great spiritual teacher Marpa realized that Mila had a great deal of evil karma to be worked through . So he &#8220;sentenced&#8221; Mila to a long period of hard labour: Marpa set him the task of building a stone structure&#8230; only to have Mila destroy it as soon as he built it. This occured eight times.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">Only then was Mila purified enough to hear the spiritual instructions.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">Alot of us feel we&#8217;ve been living a life of (psychological) hard labour in some ways.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">What a great basis for waking up from the illusions that <a href="http://www.getalifetime.com/2010/01/17/should-the-judge-sentence-ego-to-jail/" target="_self">ego </a>creates.</span></p>
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		<title>Slave girl&#8217;s story: the real reason for death of Tutankamun</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 23 Feb 2010 01:47:34 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Maggie</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[1970s]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[ancient Egypt]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[We do not have to believe in reincarnation to benefit from this post or weblog. We only have to agree that present actions have effects in the future. What we call our past history was once the future that was caused by previous “present” actions. 

Prologue: We are told that karma is carried from one [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<blockquote><p>We do not have to believe in reincarnation to benefit from this post or weblog. We only have to agree that present actions have effects in the future. What we call our past history was once the future that was caused by previous “present” actions.<em><em> </em></em></p></blockquote>
<p><img style="border: 1px solid black; margin: 5px 10px;" title="queen-tiye-black-woman" src="http://www.getalifetime.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/05/queen-tiye-black-woman.jpg" alt="queen-tiye-black-woman" width="59" height="85" /><img style="border: 1px solid black; margin: 6px 10px;" title="helen_of_troy260x382-cropped" src="http://www.getalifetime.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/05/helen_of_troy260x382-cropped.jpg" alt="helen_of_troy260x382-cropped" width="59" height="80" /><img style="border: 1px solid black; margin: 5px 10px;" title="jezebel-cropped" src="http://www.getalifetime.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/05/jezebel-cropped.jpg" alt="jezebel-cropped" width="59" height="80" /><img style="border: 1px solid black; margin: 5px 10px;" title="cleopatra-cropped-more" src="http://www.getalifetime.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/05/cleopatra-cropped-more-133x150.jpg" alt="cleopatra-cropped-more" width="60" height="85" /><img style="border: 1px solid black; margin: 5px 10px;" title="cropped-st-teresa" src="http://www.getalifetime.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/04/cropped-st-teresa.jpg" alt="cropped-st-teresa" width="67" height="87" /><img style="border: 1px solid black; margin: 5px 10px;" title="freud" src="http://www.getalifetime.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/04/freud.jpg" alt="freud" width="70" height="86" /></p>
<p><strong>Prologue:</strong> We are told that karma is carried from one lifetime to another and from one situation to another in this present lifetime. It&#8217;s much like passing the torch in a relay race. <em><strong>But what does karma actually look like &#8220;on the ground&#8221; in our daily lives?</strong></em></p>
<p>Based on my weblog page called <em><a href="http://www.getalifetime.com/heartfelt-understanding/" target="_self">Actual face of karma</a></em>,what would the life of someone who is the present <em>(<img title="question-mark-mystery-person" src="http://www.getalifetime.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/04/question-mark-mystery-person.jpg" alt="question-mark-mystery-person" width="80" height="80" /><strong><span style="color: #ff0000;">fictional</span></strong>) </em>incarnation of Queen Tiye (mother of Akhenaten), Queen of Sparta (aka Helen of Troy), Queen Jezebel, Cleopatra, St. Teresa of Avila and Sigmund Freud actually look like? In other words, what is the fruition of the karma of this portrait gallery of six historical figures in areas like money, sex, friendships, career, family etc.? To try to answer this question, I use <strong> </strong>diary entries like the one below.</p>
<p>* * * * *</p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">I, Rainbow Desert Flower, enter this into my private diary on the 05 th day of the month of December in the year 1970 CE. May it benefit all those who are trying to understand their own karmic package.</span></p>
<blockquote><p>Over the last few years, there have been reports about the possible reasons that King Tutankhamun died at the age of 19. The latest was this past Tuedsay, February 16&#8242;10, one of which is entitled <a href="http://news.nationalgeographic.com/news/2010/02/100216-king-tut-malaria-bones-inbred-tutankhamun/" target="_self"><em>King Tut Mysteries Solved: Was Disabled, Malarial, and Inbred</em></a>. It says that the young pharoah died of malaria and mentions that his father and mother were brother and sister. The diary entry below tells the real story&#8230;..</p>
<p>I am a slave in the court of Tutankhamun. Tumult in Egypt. Akenaten has disappeared. Tutankhaten (later changed to Tutankhamun to appease the priests of the old school), a physically disabled lad of nine or ten, came to the throne in 1333 B.C. His uncle, the High Priest Ay, is the power behind the throne and is plotting to have his nephew Tutankhamun murdered so he, Ay, could ascend the throne.</p>
<p>It happened this way:<span id="more-5950"></span></p>
<p>Tutanhkamum&#8217;s mother, under pressure from her brother, the High Priest Ay, agrees to murder her son. How to do it? She notices that when her son reads a manuscript, he licks his thumb and then turns the page with the moistened thumb. Clever, nasty woman &#8211; she puts poison on the bottom of the pages of the manuscripts.</p>
<p>One day the pharoah, walking with the help of his golden canes, enters his library. Moistens thumb. Turns page with moistened thumb. Gets poison on thumb. Reads a page. Moistens thumb. Turns page with moistened thumb. Gets more poison on thumb. And the cycle begins again.</p>
<p>This murder took place circa 1324 B.C. to the best of my recollection.</p>
<p>This  of course does not mean that the king didn&#8217;t have diseases like malaria.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m just saying that he was also poisoned.  I was there. I saw it. Slaves are considered to be  &#8220;sub human.&#8221; Useful, but not of any consequence in the order of things. Almost invisible.  I used that &#8220;invisibility&#8221;  and learned the truth in the case I just described.</p>
<p>I also use my &#8220;invisibility&#8221; another time&#8230;.the <a href="http://news.nationalgeographic.com/news/2010/02/100216-king-tut-malaria-bones-inbred-tutankhamun/" target="_self">latest report</a> states that Tutankamun&#8217;s mother and father were brother and sister. Not by my recollection! His father was the pharoah Akenaten. And his mother? Queen Tiye, mother of Akenaten, and therefore Tutankamun&#8217;s grandmother as well. During some periods in ancient Egypt, incest was practiced by the royal families. This was not such a period. And so, after Queen Tiye, mother of Akenaten and Tutankamun, murders her son Tutankhamun at the behest of her brother the High Priest Ay, she is buried alive.</p></blockquote>
<p><span style="color: #000080;"><strong>Karmic Update:</strong> Today&#8217;s incarnation of Queen Tiye, called Rainbow Desert Flower, has one son. He is the incarnation of Tutankhamun, called Prince. The High Priest Ay, in this incarnation called York, is Prince&#8217;s father.</span></p>
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		<title>Kindness is the daily expression of love, says Sakyong Mipham Rinpoche</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 15 Feb 2010 03:00:46 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Maggie</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[For me, it&#8217;s a delicious juxtaposition when Valentine&#8217;s Day + the Tibetan New Year fall on the same day as they have this year on February 14, 2010.
What follows are my notes of Sakyong Mipham Rinpoche&#8217;s address to his international Shambhala Buddhist sangha at 13h00 EST today.
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><span style="color: #000080;">For me, it&#8217;s a delicious juxtaposition when Valentine&#8217;s Day + the Tibetan New Year fall on the same day as they have this year on February 14, 2010.</span></span></p>
<p><img class="alignnone size-thumbnail wp-image-5899" title="Feb 05'10 smrourfuture - cropped Feb 14'10" src="http://www.getalifetime.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/02/Feb-0510-smrourfuture-cropped-Feb-1410-149x150.jpg" alt="" width="130" height="129" /><span style="color: #000080;">What follows are my notes of Sakyong Mipham Rinpoche&#8217;s address to his international Shambhala Buddhist sangha at 13h00 EST today.</span></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">Let me stress that this is merely what I heard — not necessarily an absolutely precise transcription of what was said. But I believe it&#8217;s close enough to share its inspiring message.</span></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">The words in <span style="color: #000000;">{   }</span> are my interpretation only. Words in <span style="color: #000000;">(  )</span> are from Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche, the Sakyong&#8217;s father.<br />
</span></span></p>
<ul>
<li>Courage and effort are part of our {Shambhala Buddhist} tradition;</li>
<li>{By contrast} It&#8217;s easy to fall asleep {not being awake;  just sleepwalking through life by being caught up in habitual patterns etc.} and hope that it all gets better;</li>
<li>{It takes courage to} take responsibility for our own thoughts and projections;</li>
<li>Don&#8217;t need to give into hate. Must have the power and maturity to express our love. Kindness will save our mind and planet;</li>
<li>Love is the natural outpouring {on the relative or conventional plane} of our basic goodness {on the ultimate or absolute plane}. It&#8217;s a feeling of offering.
<ul>
<li>(&#8220;The closest analogy I can think of at this point is the general basic goodness of drinking a glass of ice water.&#8221; Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche; paras 4 + 10, please click<a href="http://www.shambhala.org/teachers/vctr/ges.html" target="_self"> here</a>);</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li>(Love) liberates us from a mind that is stuck in just wanting;</li>
<li>Ability to love brings peace and soothes others;</li>
<li>Sometimes we are foolish and overwhelmed and possessed by wanting more. We become unhappy and wanting creates pain for others.</li>
<li>Kindness = not struggling with our selves. Kindness is not a ceremony but a simple human exchange;</li>
<li>Love is powerful emotion. Kindness is the daily [SMR actually said "more common and practical] expression of love. This is a viable path. When we decide that love is our path, it&#8217;s a very powerful moment;</li>
<li>As Shambhala warriors, we are being challenged by wanting to hate; this is where we have to remember our tradition of courage; if we have something {good} to offer, we must demonstrate that;
<ul>
<li>(&#8220;The whole Shambhala training process is connected with how to <a href="http://www.shambhala.org/teachers/vctr/ges.html" target="_self">mani</a><a href="http://www.shambhala.org/teachers/vctr/ges.html" target="_self">fest</a>, so that people can do things without deception.&#8221; Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche; para 2)</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li>Not continously driven and wanting;</li>
<li>Meditation has shown us that through kindness we can stop torturing ourselves by thinking that there just one more thing that we need to be happy;</li>
<li>So take charge of your attitude {rather than just being driven by negative thoughts that are generated by your mind}. If we decide we want to be awake, we can. Otherwise we&#8217;ll sleepwalk throughout our life.</li>
<li>Awake = the attitude that any part of our life is an opportunity to be awake and good;</li>
<li>When things become difficult, see this as part of {what is being generated by our} mind;</li>
<li>Look at our life as the possibility of enlightenment itself;</li>
<li>If we have positive and strong attitude, then our home life can be our path to enlightenment;
<ul>
<li>(&#8220;As they say, charity begins at <a href="http://www.shambhala.org/teachers/vctr/ges.html" target="_blank">home</a>.&#8221; Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche; para 2)</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li>Home is neutral. It&#8217;s up to us to decide whether it will be positive or negative. This is the notion of the householder living an awakened life rather than hiding in our life. On the premise that home can be the basis of goodness, then we can move into the world with this attitude.</li>
</ul>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">The complete address can be found</span> <a href="http://www.shambhala.org/media/2009/S_Day_address_2010.mp3" target="_self">here</span></a>.</span></p>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 08 Feb 2010 01:30:50 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Maggie</dc:creator>
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Ferhan, a former workplace colleague, apologized for calling so early. And then got down to business:
&#8220;I feel extremely negative lately,&#8221; she said. &#8220;I don&#8217;t understand what&#8217;s happening. There seems to be a lot of discord around, my mind seems [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><span style="color: #000080;">The telephone rang at 06h00 on February 5, 2010! I&#8217;m an early bird. But not that early!</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">Ferhan, a former workplace colleague, apologized for calling so early. And then got down to business:</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">&#8220;I feel extremely negative lately,&#8221; she said. &#8220;I don&#8217;t understand what&#8217;s happening. There seems to be a lot of discord around, my mind seems even more discursive than usual. I feel dragged down by heavy emotions. Like they&#8217;re almost taking me over.&#8221;</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">&#8220;Donovan&#8217;s <a href="http://www.metrolyrics.com/season-of-the-witch-lyrics-donovan.html" target="_blank"><em>Season of the Witch</em></a> is upon us,&#8221; I replied.&#8221; </span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">&#8220;What? What witch?&#8221; she said.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">&#8220;Oh yes I forgot. You would have been in diapers when that song was popular. Well, the &#8216;witch&#8217; in this case is called <a href="http://www.chronicleproject.com/stories_172.html" target="_blank">Mamo</a>.&#8221;</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">&#8220;Specifically,&#8221; I continued, &#8220;it&#8217;s the Dön [pronounced "dun"] Season. From February third to the twelfth.</span> <span style="color: #000080;">A lot of negativity built up over the past year gathers together now. Maybe you&#8217;re picking up on that.&#8221;</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">She asked if I could send her an e-mail with more explanation.</span></p>
<blockquote><p>Dear Ferhan,</p>
<p>The Dön (obstacles) Season comes at the end  of the Tibetan year, which changes every year, unlike the Western New Year,  which always takes place on January 01.</p>
<p>Here&#8217;s a sort of &#8220;nutshell&#8221; quotation from <a href="http://www.torontoholisticdirectory.com/Traditional_Chinese_Medicine/Blue_Lapis_Clinic-1216-9-0-0.html" target="_blank">Harald Dienes, Blue Lapis Clinic</a>:</p>
<p>Accumulated negative karma tends to ripen towards the end of the lunar year. It is a time when we are more susceptible to seemingly external influences such as distractions, illness and collective upheavals. According to tradition this is a time when we allow for closure of the expiring year and do not embark on any new projects&#8230;..</p>
<p>The Tibetan New Year is  sometimes  in January, sometimes in February or March. This year it is February 14, 2010. Valentines Day!  So, before this date, negativity is heightened for about two weeks.</p>
<p>Because of our lack of paying  attention to the conditions of our life, obstacles sneak in, says Sakyong Mipham Rinpoche.</p>
<p>Here&#8217;s an analogy: You&#8217;re a knitter. If you drop a stitch and don&#8217;t notice it, just keep knitting, then drop another stitch and on and on in this way, when you have the finished product, you&#8217;ll notice the holes. So you have to pay attention. A line in Donovan&#8217;s song <em>Season of the Witch </em>puts it this way:</p>
<p>You&#8217;ve got to pick up every stitch.</p>
<p>Now for the good news!</p>
<p>&#8230;..what is it we can do as antidote for  obstacles?&#8230;.engaging in <a href="http://tinyurl.com/ylpnomt" target="_blank">practice</a> &#8230;&#8230;  restarting and rekindling our &#8230;..  mind of enlightenment. Loving kindness and  compassion&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;</p>
<ul>
<li>We can work with obstacles, understand them. Then they can help us to become more aware of what is happening moment-to-moment as much as we can every day of the year; become appreciative of the life force.</li>
<li>We can slow down right  now, reflect on what’s happening; a time to amend relationships and friendships,  quarrels.</li>
<li>This is the time to “hold your seat” and just be aware of the negativity that arises, rather than indulge in it. If we indulge then we have to be aware of that also. Awareness is the antidote.<br />
&lt;Source: Sakyong Mipham Rinpoche:<em> The Dön  Season;</em> my unedited transcription of an  online talk in real time; January 27, 2008; Halifax,  Canada&gt;</li>
</ul>
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<p><span style="color: #000080;">FYI&#8230;Buddhists, besides practicing mindfulness and awareness of situations, also practice something called <a href="http://www.shambhala.org/community/mamo_recitation.pdf" target="_blank">The Mamo Chants</a> to pacify the turmoil of the <a href="http://www.chronicleproject.com/stories_172.html" target="_blank">Mamos</a>.<br />
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		<title>When we fall off the wall: the Humpty-Dumpty Syndrome</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 01 Feb 2010 00:46:20 +0000</pubDate>
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Humtpy Dumpty sat on a wall
Humpty Dumpty had a great fall
All the king&#8217;s horses, and all the king&#8217;s men
Couldn&#8217;t put Humpty Dumpty back together again.

I&#8217;ve had lots of experiencing falling off the wall.
In the context of this post, Humpty Dumpty refers to our manufactured self (ego). It&#8217;s not a stable structure because none of the [...]]]></description>
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="color: #000000;">Humtpy Dumpty sat on a wall<br />
Humpty Dumpty had a great fall<br />
All the king&#8217;s horses, and all the king&#8217;s men<br />
Couldn&#8217;t put Humpty Dumpty back together again.</span></p>
</blockquote>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">I&#8217;ve had lots of experiencing falling off the wall.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">In the context of this post, Humpty Dumpty refers to our </span><a href="http://www.getalifetime.com/2009/03/01/life-is-but-a-dream-the-big-illusion/" target="_blank">manufactured self</a> <span style="color: #000080;">(ego). It&#8217;s not a stable structure because none of the <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Saṅkhāra" target="_blank">&#8220;parts&#8221;</a> exist in any solid, permanent way independent from the causes and conditions — that we call &#8220;our life&#8221; — which themselves are constantly changing and shifting.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">I spent a lot of time in a never-ending cycle that looks like this:</span></p>
<ol>
<li><span style="color: #000080;">sat relatively comfortably on my wall; and then<br />
</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #000080;">something would come along to challenge this comfort</span><span style="color: #000080;"> andI would fall off the wall and then try to &#8220;get my life back together again.&#8221;</span></li>
</ol>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">Then the two stages of this cycle would start again.</span></p>
<p style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #000080;"><span id="more-3050"></span><strong>Stage One:</strong></span><strong></strong></p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #000080;"><em>&#8220;Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall&#8221;</em></span><em></em></p>
<p><a href="http://www.getalifetime.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/HumptyDumpty-1-in-sequence-of-3.png"><img class="alignnone size-thumbnail wp-image-5646" title="HumptyDumpty 1 in sequence of 3" src="http://www.getalifetime.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/HumptyDumpty-1-in-sequence-of-3-146x150.png" alt="HumptyDumpty 1 in sequence of 3" width="146" height="150" /></a></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">I&#8217;m &#8220;holding it all together.&#8221;  <a href="http://www.getalifetime.com/2009/03/01/life-is-but-a-dream-the-big-illusion/" target="_blank">Ego</a> feels comfortable. Those who have a Twitter account see the status message in the bottom right-hand side of their screen everyday, e.g. &#8220;Twitter status: all good.&#8221;  In the same way, when we&#8217;re in Stage One of the cycle, we can say &#8220;Ego&#8217;s status: OK.&#8221;<br />
</span></p>
<blockquote><p><span style="color: #000000;">Example from my life:  Pretty nice life – good family, fun sisters, girl&#8217;s camp in the summer (canoeing, horseback riding, head of the “Orange tribe”), private girl’s school, friends, piano lessons, skiing lessons, play bridge, join a sorority, university grad, meet husband-to-be and get married</span></p></blockquote>
<p style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #000080;"><strong><br />
Stage Two:</strong></span><strong></strong><br />
<em> </em></p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #000080;"><em>&#8220;Humpty Dumpty had a great fall&#8230;&#8221;</em></span><em></em></p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #000080;"><em>(I-just-want-my-life-back.)<br />
</em></span><em></em></p>
<p><a href="http://www.getalifetime.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/HumptyDumpty-2-crop2-in-sequence-of-3.png"><img class="alignnone size-thumbnail wp-image-5647" title="HumptyDumpty 2 crop2 in sequence of 3" src="http://www.getalifetime.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/HumptyDumpty-2-crop2-in-sequence-of-3-113x150.png" alt="HumptyDumpty 2 crop2 in sequence of 3" width="113" height="150" /></a></p>
<blockquote><p><span style="color: #000000;">Example from my life: made the wrong marriage. It fell apart. How I felt is best described by the following quote:<br />
</span></p>
<p>&#8220;When the marriage broke up it had the effect of throwing me into a totally  groundless state, which these days might be called a severe depression. I was  scared and I was angry and I couldn&#8217;t get anything to come back together.&#8221; (<a href="http://www.chronicleproject.com/stories_28.html" target="_blank">click here</a> for source)</p></blockquote>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">Stage Two happens when &#8220;<a href="http://www.lisakmedium.com/" target="_self">your comfort zone becomes your cage</a>.&#8221; My old reference points get frayed at the edges, don&#8217;t hold up like they used to. I am frightened. The rug is pulled out from under me and I land on the floor! My ego, which relies on old habitual patterns to convince itself that it exists, swings into action to somehow &#8220;get-my-old-life-back.&#8221; This reliance on old, familiar, habitual patterns ensures that I will fall part once again.<br />
</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">Stage One again.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">Stage Two again.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">And on and on.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">I finally had to examine this cycle very carefully.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">I came to two conclusions:</span></p>
<ol>
<li><span style="color: #000080;">I realized I can&#8217;t get anything from the past &#8220;back;&#8221; To believe that I can get my old life back is false; and</span></li>
</ol>
<ol>
<li><span style="color: #000080;">I decided not to make futile efforts to put my life together again, only to fall off the wall once again. So I simply sat there on the ground like Humpty Dumpty and <a href="http://www.elephantjournal.com/2008/05/elebuddhadharma-the-dathun-letter-via-chogyam-trungpa-rinpoche/" target="_blank">rested in that state</a>, and <a href="http://www.getalifetime.com/2009/07/27/first-aid-for-overloaded-minds-coming-home/" target="_blank">watched my mind</a> making feeble verbal attempts to get back to Stage One: &#8220;Let&#8217;s-try-this. Let&#8217;s-try-that.&#8221;</span></li>
</ol>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">At age 45 I got to Stage Three. Hopefully, <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uF2DY8hKIts" target="_self">Tiger Woods</a> has reached this stage as well and will come out of the dark tunnel of an ego that has crashed.<br />
</span></p>
<p style="text-align: left;"><strong><br />
<span style="color: #000080;">Stage Three:</span><br />
</strong></p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #000080;"><em>All the king&#8217;s horses and all the king&#8217;s men<br />
Couldn&#8217;t put Humpty Dumpty back together again.</em></span><em></em></p>
<p><a href="http://www.getalifetime.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/HumptyDumpty-3-in-sequence1.png"><img class="alignnone size-thumbnail wp-image-5658" title="HumptyDumpty 3 in sequence" src="http://www.getalifetime.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/HumptyDumpty-3-in-sequence1-146x150.png" alt="HumptyDumpty 3 in sequence" width="146" height="150" /></a></p>
<blockquote><p>Example from my life: I had fallen very much in love with a work colleague — not workable. It reminds me of a line from the song &#8220;You walk by and I fall to pieces.&#8221; Collapsed in a way I had not collapsed in my life before. Became very ill. I was 45 year&#8217;s old. <span style="color: #000000;">Lyrics from the song <a href="http://www.lyricsdownload.com/guess-who-undun-lyrics.html" target="_blank"><em>Undun</em></a> by the Guess Who kept running through my mind!</span></p></blockquote>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">At this point in my life, I began to realize that, rather than seeing my experience as an “obstacle” (and blaming others) to a fulfilling life, I could use it as a key to open another door that goes beyond <a href="http://www.getalifetime.com/2010/01/17/should-the-judge-sentence-ego-to-jail/" target="_blank">ego&#8217;s tricks</span></a>. Put another way, I could use my experience as a jump-off point to spiritual development to go beyond self-absorption.</span></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">I also noticed that it was Humpty Dumpty that fell. Not the wall! In the context of this post, the wall represents the unchanging, primordial ground that underlies all changing things in our world. Or put another way, the wall symbolizes the primeval groundlessness (open space beyond our attachments, fixations, clingings and obsessions) on which we can &#8220;sit&#8221; whether we fall off or not!<br />
</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">What a delicious piece of irony&#8230;..<br />
</span></p>
<p><strong><span style="color: #000080;">Resources:</span></strong></p>
<ul>
<li><span style="color: #000080;">Sakyong Mipham Rinpoche: <em><a href="http://www.shambhala.org/teachings/view.php?id=117" target="_blank">Ruling Your World</a> </em><a href="http://www.mipham.com/booksandmedia.php" target="_blank"><em> </em></a><br />
</span></li>
</ul>
<li style="padding-left: 30px;"><span style="color: #000080;">Learning to meditate &#8211; <a href="http://www.shambhala.org/meditation/" target="_blank">click here</a><br />
</span></li>
<ul>
<li><span style="color: #000080;">Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche: <a href="http://live.shambhala.com/learn-more/chogyam-trungpa/books-by-chogyam-trungpa/reviews/sanity-we-are-born-with/" target="_blank"><em>The Sanity We Are Born With</em></a></span></li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li><span style="color: #000080;">Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche: <em>Working with Negativity </em></span><span style="color: #000080;">(<a href="http://www.beliefnet.com/Health/Physical-Health/Pain-Management/Turning-Toward-Pain.aspx" target="_blank">article </a>in magazine <em>Garuda</em>, Spring 1972; also a chapter in <a href="http://www.shambhala.com/html/catalog/items/ISBN/1-57062-933-1.cfm" target="_blank">Myth of Freedom</a>)</span></li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li><span style="color: #000080;"><a href="http://www.shambhala.com/html/catalog/items/isbn/978-1-59030-757-1.cfm" target="_blank"><em>In the Face of Fear: </em><em>Buddhist Wisdom for Challenging Times</em></a>, ed Barry Boyce et al<br />
</span></li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li><span style="color: #000080;">Robert Kull: <a href="http://www.bobkull.org/book1.html" target="_blank"><em>Seeking Wisdom in Extremes</em></a><br />
</span></li>
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		<title>The real root cause of depression</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 25 Jan 2010 02:47:51 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[If you don’t know it’s a thought it becomes your reality. &#60;Anon&#62; 
There seems to be as many &#8220;causes&#8221; for depression as there are people who experience it.

I&#8217;ve lost my job.
My marriage has fallen apart.
It&#8217;s raining.
I&#8217;m in alot of physical pain.

Having suffered from chronic depression in the past, I finally came to a stunning realization. [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<blockquote><p>If you don’t know it’s a thought it becomes your reality. &lt;Anon&gt; </span></p></blockquote>
<p><span style="color: #000080;"><span style="font-size: 14pt; font-family: Times New Roman;">There seems to be as many &#8220;causes&#8221; for depression as there are people who experience it.</span></span></p>
<ul>
<li>I&#8217;ve lost my job.</li>
<li>My marriage has fallen apart.</li>
<li>It&#8217;s raining.</li>
<li>I&#8217;m in alot of physical pain.</li>
</ul>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">Having suffered from chronic depression in the past, I finally came to a stunning realization. None of the above cause depression. It&#8217;s the way I relate to what is happening, not what happens in the world &#8220;outside&#8221; myself, that causes depression. </span></span></p>
<blockquote>
<div><span><span>&#8220;There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it  so.&#8221; – Shakespeare</span></span></span></div>
<div><span><span><br />
</span></span></span></div>
<div><span><span>and</span></span></span></div>
<div><span><span><br />
</span></span></span></div>
<div><span><span></p>
<div><span>We don’t attach to things; we attach  to our stories about them</span>- Byron Katie,  author of <em>Loving What Is</em></span></span></div>
<p></span></span></div>
</blockquote>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">In other words, </span><a href="http://www.getalifetime.com/2009/03/08/life-is-but-a-dream-part-2/" target="_blank">ego</a> <span style="color: #000080;">is the basic cause of depression, whether chronic or otherwise!</span></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">Put very simply, habitual patterns arise from grasping at a <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Saṅkhāra" target="_blank">manufactured self</a>, ego, that <a href="http://www.getalifetime.com/2010/01/17/should-the-judge-sentence-ego-to-jail/" target="_blank">doesn&#8217;t actually exist</a>. </span></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">Supporting this habitual grapsing is an ego-mind produces thoughts, discursive chit-chat and subconscious gossip and <a href="http://thinkexist.com/quotation/afflictive-emotions-our-jealousy-anger-hatred/349284.html" target="_blank">afflictive emotions</a> of of all kinds based on its <a href="http://www.getalifetime.com/12-factors-karma/" target="_blank">original mistake</a>: the creation of a Self. And then, by extension, the Other. And we believe it. That&#8217;s the problem.</span></span></p>
<ul>
<li>&#8220;You don&#8217;t have a job. So you&#8217;re worthless and a loser.&#8221;</li>
<li>&#8220;They have more than I do.&#8221;</li>
<li>&#8220;I&#8217;m the best!&#8221;</li>
<li>&#8220;I&#8217;m the worst!&#8221;</li>
</ul>
<p><span style="color: #000080;"><span id="more-5528"></span>As a sole support mother, being without a job sometimes was especially troubling for me. I finally realized that depending on external conditions (e.g. a job; the opinions of &#8220;Others,&#8221; others that I myself — ego </span></span><span style="color: #000080;">—</span></span><span style="color: #000080;">have created) for my self-esteem was the problem. I had a belief that, to feel worthwhile, I had to have a job.<br />
</span></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">That&#8217;s what ego does to convince itself that it exists in a solid, permanent way in an &#8220;external&#8221; world.<br />
</span></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">It doesn&#8217;t. It knows that, but will not give up the struggle to prove that it exists.</span></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">This conflict — knowing it doesn&#8217;t exist and struggling every minute to prove it does </span></span><span style="color: #000080;"><span style="font-size: 14pt; font-family: Times New Roman;">— </span></span><span style="color: #000080;">produces depressions of all kinds <em>when it gets undercut by our daily experience in the world</em>.</span></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">I said above that the problem is that we believe our own thoughts, our own <a href="http://www.getalifetime.com/2009/11/22/we-are-all-living-in-the-twilight-zone/" target="_blank">projections</a>. </span></span></p>
<blockquote>
<p style="text-align: center;">The thoughts will keep coming, but the belief in them will stop &#8211; Mooji</p>
<p style="text-align: center;">If you have no interest in a thought, it has no power.<br />
You oxygenate them with your beliefs and interests &#8211; <a href="http://wellnessfrominside.typepad.com/wellness_from_insidelivin/2010/01/stilling-the-monkey-mind.html" target="_blank">Mooji</a></p>
</blockquote>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">The good news is that it&#8217;s both the problem and the promise! We can relate in a non-ego way to our thoughts by</span> <a href="http://www.getalifetime.com/2009/05/17/be-proactive-do-nothing/#more-1780" target="_blank">practice</a>.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">I&#8217;m so relieved when I remind myself of this quote:<br />
</span></span></p>
<blockquote><p>We don&#8217;t have to believe everything we think. &lt;<a href="http://www.shambhala.org/teachers/chogyam-trungpa.php" target="_blank">Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche</a>&gt;</p></blockquote>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">After all, it&#8217;s just a thought&#8230;&#8230;keep it that way so that it doesn&#8217;t become your reality.</span></span><em><br />
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		<title>Ego in &#8220;show trial&#8221; for masquerading as something it isn&#8217;t</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 18 Jan 2010 01:50:18 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[The &#8220;show trial of the ages&#8221; has been a long one. As the spectators expected, Ego put up a spirited and clever defence. As one media headline put it, &#8220;Ego unmasked as manufactured self &#8211; trying to pass itself off as something it isn&#8217;t.&#8221;

Now the jury trooped back into the courtroom.
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><span style="color: #000080;">The &#8220;show trial of the ages&#8221; has been a long one. As the spectators expected, Ego put up a spirited and clever defence. As one media headline put it, &#8220;Ego unmasked as <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Saṅkhāra" target="_blank">manufactured self</a> &#8211; trying to pass itself off as something it isn&#8217;t.&#8221;<br />
</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">Now the jury trooped back into the courtroom.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">Have you reached a verdict, intoned the judge?</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">Yes Your Honour, replied the foreperson.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">Read the charge, says the judge.</span></p>
<blockquote><p>Ego is charged with masquerading as something it is not.</p>
<p>It is charged with vainly struggling to prove something unproveable, i.e. that it &#8220;exists.&#8221; To quote<a href="http://www.thework.com/index.asp" target="_blank"> Byron Katie</a> &#8220;The ego is terrified of the truth. And the truth is that ego doesn&#8217;t exist.&#8221;</p>
<p>Ego is further charged with duping human beings into believing a huge lie, namely, that it is real, solid and permanent, when in fact it is manufactured, like a car or a toy. The bureaucracy it has set up to protect its interests surpasses that of the largest international corporations.</p>
<p>Ego has misled us! Thus, Ego wastes vast amounts of time that could be put to better use, that of waking up from its delusion. As the expression goes, <em>&#8220;Get a life, Ego&#8221; </em>instead of wasting ours!</p></blockquote>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">How do you find the defendant? Guilt or not guilty?</span></p>
<blockquote><p>We find the defendant guilty as charged.</p></blockquote>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">The courtroom erupted. The judge bangs her gavel. Silence.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">The foreman continues:</span></p>
<blockquote><p>Because of this vain struggle to prove that it exists,  and the suffering that struggle produces, Ego is charged with the following counts: <strong> </strong></p>
<ul>
<li><strong>Count One:</strong> being self-absorbed to the extent that it prevents us from going beyond neuroses and becoming fully human  &#8211; <em>We find the defendant guilty as charged</em>;</li>
<li><strong>Count Two: </strong>obesity from its insatiable hunger to convince us of its 0wn importance &#8211; <em>We find the defendant guilty as charged</em>;</li>
<li><strong>Count Three: </strong>dabbling constantly in <a href="http://www.getalifetime.com/2009/04/19/loot-the-private-stronghold-of-passion-aggression-and-ignorance-anon/" target="_blank">poisons</a>. Poisons cause suffering. They sometimes kill &#8211; <em>We find the defendant guilty as charged</em>;</li>
<li><strong>Count Four: </strong>believing itself to be the centre of everything, just like the Middle Ages mistakenly thought the earth, not the sun, was the centre of our galaxy. Because of you, Galileo was thrown in jail &#8211; <em>We find the defendant guilty as charged</em>;</li>
<li><strong>Count Five: </strong>creating barriers between people by setting up  &#8220;self&#8221; and &#8220;other.&#8221; Therefore, there is discord, suffering, war, hunger and poverty. Even the <a href="http://www.getalifetime.com/2009/08/09/its-the-balance-not-the-badness/" target="_blank">&#8220;happiness&#8221;</a> we experience is just another form of suffering, because it  is fleeting and based on illusion. We quote the Dalai Lama on this topic: <em>Many problems due to demarcation of “we” and “they.” Shortsighted. Narrow minded.&#8221; </em>
<ul>
<li>a by-product of this need to cut up humanity into &#8220;self&#8217; and &#8220;other&#8221; is Ego&#8217;s ingrained tendency to engage in any action that will prove it is &#8220;better&#8221; than others by putting others down;</li>
<li>Ego encourages us to compare ourselves to others;</li>
<li>Ego depends on &#8220;external&#8221; conditions — which it itself has created — to get a sense of confidence and self-esteem;</li>
<li>Ego creates obstacles for us by spinning a story-line around our experience, including blaming others for our suffering.</li>
<li>Ego creates a <a href="http://www.shambhala.org/teachers/vctr/ges.html" target="_self">bag of tricks</a> (paragraphs 16 + 17), e.g. habitual patterns, to cover up the pain and suffering and discomfort we experience from trying to prove something unprovable.</li>
</ul>
<p><em>We find the defendant guilty as charged.</em></li>
<li><strong>Count Six:</strong> believing whatever it thinks to be true! As a result, it is fooled by its own <a href="http://www.getalifetime.com/2009/05/17/be-proactive-do-nothing/#more-1780" target="_blank">projections</a> (thoughts about things) and distort the truth; from this follows <a href="http://www.getalifetime.com/12-factors-karma/" target="_blank">karma</a>, karma that keeps us imprisoned in a treadmill life and robs us of our <a href="http://www.getalifetime.com/2009/09/20/is-free-will-really-free-part-3-of-3/" target="_blank">free will</a> &#8211; <em>We find the defendant guilty as charged</em>.</li>
</ul>
</blockquote>
<p><span id="more-5431"></span>I<span style="color: #000080;">n short, concluded the foreman, Ego is charged with both the creation and maintenance of the world of confusion and suffering (samsara). To put it another way, ego robs us of experiencing the world in a <a href="http://www.getalifetime.com/2009/06/14/lancing-the-boyle-susans-trills-become-tweets/" target="_blank">fresh way</a> moment-by-moment.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">Again, the courtroom noisily erupts, spilling out all its discursive thought and exchanging gossip. What will the sentence be?</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">&#8220;All quiet in the courtroom&#8221; shouts a court official. </span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">The judge pronounces sentence:</span></p>
<blockquote><p>The court takes these charges very seriously. The suffering that Ego causes is enormous.  But jail is not the answer. While it&#8217;s true that Ego keeps <em>us </em>imprisoned,  putting ego in jail and throwing away the key would just be a form of resistance. It&#8217;s like putting your hand on a bedspring. When you remove your hand, what happens? The spring bounces back.  If we put Ego down, it will just bounce back when we remove the restraints.</p>
<p>There will be no jail time. Instead, I propose an innovative solution to the problem of Ego. Put it under house arrest. Monitor its activity closely without judgement. In short, practice<a href="http://www.getalifetime.com/2009/07/27/first-aid-for-overloaded-minds-coming-home/#more-3986" target="_blank"> mindfulness and awareness</a>.</p></blockquote>
<p><em> </em></p>
<p><em> </em></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">And then the judge reads part of a poem by <a href="http://www.shambhala.org/teachers/chogyam-trungpa.php" target="_blank">Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche</a>:</span></p>
<blockquote><p>In the jungles of flaming ego,<br />
May there be a cool iceberg of bodhicitta [compassion].</p>
<p>On the racetrack of [ego's] bureaucracy,<br />
May there be the walk of the elephant.</p>
<p>May the sumptuous castle of[ego's] arrogance,<br />
Be destroyed by vajra [indestructable] confidence.</p></blockquote>
<p>[<strong>Note: </strong>the additions in [  ] immediately above are the judge&#8217;s.]</p>
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		<title>We need a ticket to ride!</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 11 Jan 2010 02:04:34 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Maggie</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[My son lives in the north part of the city. But he likes downtown. He just doesn&#8217;t like to pay the new, increased fare to get there. I suggest to him the he not begrudge spending money on a transit ticket.  It&#8217;s literally and figuratively his &#8220;ticket to ride,&#8221; as the Beatles&#8217; song put it.
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><span style="color: #000080;">My son lives in the north part of the city. But he likes downtown. He just doesn&#8217;t like to pay the new, increased fare to get there. I suggest to him the he not begrudge spending money on a transit ticket.  It&#8217;s literally and figuratively his &#8220;ticket to ride,&#8221; as the Beatles&#8217; song put i</span>t.</p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">It&#8217;s his ticket to having multiple choices of where he wants to go and what he wants to do. In other words, it&#8217;s his ticket to relative (conventional) freedom.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">How about the ticket that takes us beyond the <a href="http://www.shambhala.com/html/catalog/items/ISBN/1-57062-933-1.cfm" target="_blank">myth of  freedom</a>? For me, real freedom is to go beyond the<a href="http://www.getalifetime.com/karmic-footprint/" target="_blank"> karma </a>we have created and constantly and unwittingly maintain by our actions.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">How do we go beyond? Cut through? Change?</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">In short, we need to change our attitude, our perspective.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">How?</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;"><span id="more-5372"></span>Two main ways:</span></p>
<ol>
<li><span style="color: #000080;">study; and</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #000080;">practice</span></li>
</ol>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">Study what? How our ignorance of the real nature of reality creates karma and traps us in that karma.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">Practice what? The  practices I do seem to be two-fold, but not mutually exclusive by any means. One type creates the environment where I can start to understand the real nature of reality in a direct way. The second type helps me to change my attitude.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">This then takes us into the land of multiple choices, as it were. Again, in terms of our two main categories of study and practice:</span></p>
<ol>
<li><span style="color: #000080;">There are many genuine teachings to study to bring about a change in perspective, to change our confusion into wisdom. Only you can know what teaching is for you.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #000080;">There are many practices to bring about a change in attitude.</span></li>
</ol>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">In terms of number 2, as I wrote above, the basic practices I do seem to be two-fold, but not mutually exclusive.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">2 a) One type creates the environment where I can start to understand the real nature of reality <em>in a direct way</em>: <a href="http://www.shambhala.org/meditation/" target="_blank">basic meditation</a>.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000080;">2b) The <a href="http://www.getalifetime.com/2009/08/30/can-we-actually-change-our-minds/" target="_blank">second type</a> helps me to change my attitude: practices of loving-kindness, compassion, moving beyond self-absorption. Some simple ones can be found <a href="http://www.shambhala.com/html/catalog/items/isbn/978-1-57062-921-1.cfm" target="_blank">here</a>.</span></p>
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